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Adults Recovering: Books for Men
A range of the best books for men who are recovering from Trauma, Sexual Assault or Childhood Abuse.

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Abused Boys
Adults Molested As Children
Beginning to Heal
Beyond Betrayal
Beyond Survival
Body Bears the Burden
Breaking Free
Breaking Free Workbook
Breaking the Silence
Broken Boys Mending Men
Children Of The Self-Absorbed
Conspiracy of Faith
Courage to Heal Workbook
EMDR : Transforming Trauma
Gay Men & Childhood Sexual Trauma
Hurting and Healing
Hurting Inside
I Can't Get Over It
Leaping Upon the Mountains
Men Surviving Incest
Narrative Approaches.... Male Survivors

New Male Sexuality
On the Threshold of Hope
Out of the Shadows
Outgrowing the Pain
Overcoming Childhood Trauma
Please Daddy No
PTSD Workbook
Reclaiming Your Life
Rescuing the Inner Child
Right to Innocence
Survivor
Survivor's Guide to Recovery
Survivor's Resource Pack
The Secret
Toxic Parents
Trauma, The Body & Transformation
Trauma & Recovery
Victims No Longer
Waking The Tiger
Wounded Boys Heroic Men

Abused Boys : The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse

by Mic Hunter
£

A supportive book, beginning with definitions of sexual abuse, its frequency and effects, and recovery issues. Part 2 gives survival stories in the words of male survivors & their partners: "These stories cover a broad range of experiences, types of abuse, stages of recovery. I encourage you to read all of them, since each has something to teach you.... look for the similarities to your story rather than the differences. None of them is pleasant to read, but I believe they will offer you hope in your recovery."

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Adults Molested As Children : A Survivor's Manual for Women and Men
by Euan Bear with Peter T. Dimock
£

A small, useful book. "This manual will help survivors understand what they are going through now as a result of what they went through then."

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Beginning to Heal : A First Book for Men and Women Who Were Sexually Abused As Children
by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
£

New revised edition of an excellent little book, now written for men as well as women. "The most important thing for you to know is that it is possible to heal from child abuse. If you are willing to work hard and find good support, you can not only heal but thrive."

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Beyond Betrayal : Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse
by Richard B. Gartner with a Foreword by William Pollack
£

An important book on an important topic. Beyond Betrayal explores a once-taboo topic -- the sexual victimization of boys and young men by clergy, parents, relatives, caretakers, and other trusted adults. The book includes their stories as well as practical ways a survivor can recover his sense of self and take charge of his sexuality, his future, and his self-esteem. The book also includes advice for the families and loved ones of abused boys. HARDBACK

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Beyond Survival : Living Well is the Best Revenge
by Yvonne Dolan
£

"For people who have struggled with painful past events, and even for those who have not, Beyond Survival will unlock psychological resources and abilities you may have never realised you possessed and empower you to create the life you want. I offer you this book as a talisman of hope and courage for your own journey and that of people dear to you."
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The Body Bears the Burden : Trauma Dissociation and Disease

by Robert C. Scaer, MD
£

This book identifies the ways that the sudden helplessness and terror of trauma induce changes in brain function, and the effects these changes can have on muscles, digestion, blood pressure, and many other bodily systems. It gives doctors, counsellors and other workers the information to offer new hope to anyone suffering from whiplash, PTSD or a history of abuse. Written for professionals, but of interest to survivors too.

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Breaking Free : Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Carolyn Ainscough & Kay Toon
£

2nd Edition. Full of information about child sexual abuse and its consequences, plus practical suggestions for overcoming the effects of abuse. "...written to share what we have learnt, to reach out to all people who have been sexually abused as children and to help them take their first steps in breaking free from the past."

"Breaking Free" was originally written for women, but "this second edition now includes the experiences and writings of male survivors, puts more emphasis on women abusers and describes the meaning and application of the term 'false memory syndrome'." See below for the Workbook.

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Breaking Free Workbook
by Carolyn Ainscough & Kay Toon
£

A workbook based on the excellent "Breaking Free", and on the authors' years of experience of working with groups of survivors of child sexual abuse. This book is "for male and female survivors of childhood sexual abuse and guides you step-by-step through a series of exercises aimed at recognising, understanding and working on problems resulting from childhood abuse." Also useful for survivors of physical or emotional abuse. Recommended.

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Breaking the Silence : Survivors of Child Abuse Speak Out
by Liz Mullinar & Candida Hunt
£

"..for all people who have been abused as children, healing is possible and incredibly rewarding. With courage, patience, and loving help, no matter how bad the abuse, you can heal.... This is an attempt by a group of us to reach out to you, to tell you that there are companions to walk with you on your journey".

Contains contributions from over 100 Australian survivors of emotional, physical and sexual abuse, with useful appendices.

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Broken Boys Mending Men : Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse

by Stephen D. Grubman-Black
£

This excellent little book is finally back in print!
"This book is meant to encourage telling, so that feeling returns. It is meant to affirm for victims, survivors, and those others who care and want and mean to help to say that it's OK to tell. Everyone should know the extent of the hurt and pain and damage caused by the crime and the ensuing silence.... For many readers it is an important and necessary first step." Recommended.

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Children Of The Self-Absorbed : A Grownup's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

by Nina W. Brown, Ed.D., L.P.C.
£

"Parents with a destructive narcissistic pattern will have behaviours and attitudes that are designed to preserve a self-image of perfection, entitlement and superiority... what you probably really want is to stop feeling the way you do when they trigger unwanted and unpleasant feelings, or to make them stop behaving and having the attitudes that hurt you. This book can help..."

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Conspiracy of Faith : Fighting for Justice After Child Abuse

by Graham Wilmer
£

In this powerful book, Graham Wilmer recounts the traumatic experience of being sexually abused as a child by a teacher at a Catholic College in Surrey, and explores the life-long impact that child abuse has on males. This is a brave account by a man who suffered in forced silence for 40 years until finally making the difficult decision to lay bare the truth, seek justice and bring those who had conspired against him to account. It raises many important issues about the way our society deals with sexual offences against children, and draws the disturbing conclusion that the vast majority of child abusers still operate with impunity, and will continue to do so unless the criminal justice system is radically changed in favour of the victims of abuse rather than the perpetrators.

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The Courage to Heal Workbook : For Women & Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Laura Davis
£

"...builds on many of the concepts, stories, and ideas found in "The Courage To Heal"....although you can use it without having read the first book.... Take your time, go slowly, reach out for the support you need.... The first section of the workbook.... focuses on ways to take care of yourself. Start with those pages."
Includes blank pages for you to write in. Also good for group work. Recommended.

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EMDR : Transforming Trauma : The Revolutionary New Therapy for Freeing the Mind, Clearing the Body

& Opening the Heart
by Laurel Parnell, PhD
£

Gives lots of examples of how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing) therapy has helped people who've suffered trauma or abuse, and/or are suffering from depression, anxiety, eating disorders, etc. It's not a self-help book, but is intended to help you decide if it's a method you want to try.

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Gay Men & Childhood Sexual Trauma : Integrating the Shattered Self
Edited by James Cassese, Foreword by Mike Lew
£

"It is time / for recognition of the complexity of issues facing gay male survivors of childhood sexual trauma. It is time to understand the interrelationship of the politics of abuse and homophobia. It's time to understand the specific therapeutic needs of gay men in recovery. At the same time we must recognise commonalities with other groups, forging connections to the larger community of humanity."
Not as accessible as it could be.

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Hurting and Healing : How to Overcome the Trauma of Sexual Abuse and Rape
by Gloria Wade
£

"The more we understand the nature and effects of our trauma, the less overwhelming it becomes. So within these pages you will find an explanation of rape and child sexual abuse to offer a path from understanding to healing, from being buffeted by your emotions to living the life you choose." (£1.00 OFF RRP!)

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Hurting Inside
by Lois Arnold & Anne Magill
£
"This book is for young people who are in distress, or hurting deep inside, because of bad things that have happened to them as they have been growing up... We hope it will help you find ways of easing your pain, and making life better in the future". An excellent booklet, written for survivors of abuse or neglect.
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I Can't Get Over It : A Handbook for Trauma Survivors

by Aphrodite Matsakis
£

"There is no magic formula that will undo all your pain and losses. What this book does attempt to do is to explain what PTSD is and what causes it. It also presents some techniques for coping with the symptoms and side-effects of PTSD and trauma... The healing process is presented step-by-step". Recommended.

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Leaping Upon the Mountains : Men Proclaiming Victory Over Sexual Child Abuse

by Mike Lew
£

I continue to learn from my contact with survivors... I hope to display proudly some of what I have gleaned from these experts on healing. You will have the opportunity to experience the diversity, intelligence, and creativity of male survivors. I offer this book to you as a celebration of their successful recovery - and yours."

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Men Surviving Incest : Survivor Shares the Recovery Process
by T. Thomas
£
Makes explicit the isolation and stigmatization of male survivors and discusses the fear and conflict of disclosure. Covers the issues shared by men and women: guilt, shame and low self-esteem; plus those unique to men, in a candid, sensitive manner.
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Narrative Approaches To Working With Adult Male Survivors Of Child Sexual Abuse : The Clients', the Counsellor's
Narrative Approaches Working With Adult Male Survivors

Narrative Approaches Working With Adult Male Survivors

and the Researcher's Story
by Kim Etherington
£

An experienced counsellor, and survivor herself, tells her story and that of two of her clients, through the therapy process. In so doing she provides some unique insights, accessible to survivors and therapists alike. The book also illustrates how similar abuse can affect individuals in very different ways, and introduces us to the idea of working in conjunction with a body therapist.

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The New Male Sexuality : The Truth About Men, Sex and Pleasure

by Bernie Zilbergeld, PhD
£

Revised edition of a comprehensive resource on male sexuality: "It's for those who want information, those who want advice and exercises on how to make sex better, and those who want help in resolving sexual problems."
However, it doesn't tackle problems associated with male rape.

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On the Threshold of Hope : Opening The Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
by Diane Mandt Langberg, PhD
£

A guide for Christian survivors: "This book is intended to assure you that the darkness and suffering you have experienced are indeed real. It is also meant to assure you that there is a way out of the darkness, that others have gone before you and now want to lend their voices to encourage you. It is my prayer that this book will enable you to see yourself " on the threshold of hope."

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Out of the Shadows : Help for Men Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted
by Sarah Stott
£

"Written to provide factual information about male children and adults who have been subjected to sexual assault. It aims to help these male survivors understand how sexual assault may have affected them and offers practical suggestions about how to deal with those effects." Includes some helpful survivors' stories.

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Outgrowing the Pain : A Book For and About Adults Abused As Children

by Eliana Gil
£

A small, helpful book with cartoon illustrations and simple, clear text, which explains the effects of abuse, and gives an overview of the healing process, for all forms of childhood abuse.

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Overcoming Childhood Trauma : A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques

by Helen Kennerley
£

"Some survivors will need professional support to help them overcome childhood trauma, but many will be able to move forward by using this text. Whatever the problems you face, this book aims to help you deal with the unpleasant consequences of being abused as a child. Both men and women do recover from the legacies of a traumatic childhood..."

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Please, Daddy, No : A Boy Betrayed
by Stuart Howarth
£

“My book covers many facets of my life from the feelings of hurt, abandonment, isolation, despair, depression, of not knowing how to be and the constant search for answers…” When Stuart confronted his abuser in August 2000, the man he’d called “daddy” ended up dead… “This is not an excuse but reality and today I have to live with what I have done.” HARDBACK

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The PTSD Workbook : Simple Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms

by M. William & S. Poijuka
£

"Trauma survivors need to find ways to work through their experiences... In this workbook you will have the opportunity to complete numerous exercises that will give you insight into your symptoms, your beliefs, your behaviours, and your feelings about the trauma or traumas you endured."

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Reclaiming Your Life : A Step-by-Step Guide to Using Regression Therapy to Overcome the Effects of Childhood Abuse
by Jean Jenson, M.S.W. (New Foreword by Alice Miller)
£

"The adult child population [are] suffering from problems in their lives as a result of the defences they needed as children to survive their abusive families. Such recognition has pointed to the need to confront painful feelings rather than just learn new ways to behave... The necessary and final step is to understand what regression is, why it's needed in order to heal, and how to do it."

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Rescuing the 'Inner Child' : Therapy for Adults Sexually Abused As Children
by Penny Parks
£

"The whys and wherefores of sexual abuse will be discussed, but the focus will be 'how to recover'. The message I learned personally, and share with my clients, is this: you will never forget what happened to you, but you can stop hurting."
Provides a structured method for getting in touch with the hurt child we were and beginning our healing. Recommended. Click here to see the complimentary "Counsellors' Guide to Parks Inner Child Therapy".

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The Right to Innocence : Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse
by Beverly Engel
£

A 7-step program for recovery, for men and women, with exercises and visualisations: Facing the Truth; Releasing Your Anger; Confronting Those Responsible with Facts & Feelings; Resolving Your relationships; Rediscovering Yourself; Learning Self-Care; Forgiving Yourself. You don't have to remain a victim.

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Strong at the Broken Places : Overcoming The Trauma of Childhood Abuse
by Linda Sanford
£

In this moving and authoritative work Linda Sanford passionately refutes the idea that survivors are trapped in a vicious cycle of abuse and provides vivid proof that full recovery is possible. As survivors discuss work, self-image, intimacy and spirituality, we see what enables them to triumph over trauma and become not only strong, but often strongest where they've been most injured...Strong at the Broken Places.

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Survivor : The Long Journey Back from Abuse
by Peter Andrews
£

Peter was abused in a school run by a Christian organisation. He describes being "groomed" and then abused; telling and then being betrayed. For years he existed, before his life hit a crisis and the wounds reopened. And he tells us of the pain, the struggle, the legal action, and finally, the healing, that followed.

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Survivor's Guide to Recovery : From Rape or Sexual Abuse NEW!
by Robert Kelly & Fay Maxted
£

“…a first step for anyone who wants to look at the impact sexual abuse has had in their lives… We are interested in how you can find ways to cope… on a day-to-day basis. Even more than that, for you to find a way to move through coping to living an inspired life.” Full of exercises, self-nurturing tips and friendly illustrations.

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Survivor's Resource Pack
from DABS
£

DABS Survivor's Resource Packs provide a unique source of information for survivors of childhood sexual, physical or emotional abuse, including details of the specialist helping agencies in your own area.

Your copy will include up-to-date details about specialist organisations in your area,
plus helpsheets on:

Childhood Sexual Abuse & Incest
Childhood Abuse (including Physical Violence & Emotional Abuse)
Partners of Survivors of Childhood Abuse
Counselling
Self-Help Groups
The Healing Process + A Bill of Assertive Rights
List of Useful National Organisations
Legal Actions (including Prosecuting the Abuser & Criminal Compensation Claims)
Statistics + Statement from Alice Miller
plus DABS Specialist Mail-Order Book Catalogue for Survivors

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The Secret : Art & Healing from Sexual Abuse
by F. Lyshak-Stelzer
£

Uses simple text and luminous artwork to convey messages about past trauma and the process of recovery from its long-hidden pain. "The Secret" speaks both verbally and visually to the child within adult survivors of abuse.

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Toxic Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
by Dr. Susan Forward with Craig Buck
£

"What better word than toxic to describe parents who inflict ongoing trauma, abuse and denigration on their children... even after they are grown."
Aims to help you disconnect from the trauma of the past and change self-defeating behaviour in the present.New edition!

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Trauma & Recovery : The Aftermath of Violence from Domestic Abuse & Political Terror
by Judith L. Herman
£

NEW EDITION "The first part of this book delineates the spectrum of human adaptation to traumatic events and gives a new diagnostic name to the psychological disorder found in survivors of prolonged, repeated abuse....The second part...develops an overview of the healing process and offers a new conceptual framework for psychotherapy with traumatised people." Based on 20 years clinical work with victims of incest and sexual & domestic violence, and the growing body of research on war veterans, etc. Written for professionals, but of interest to survivors too.

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Trauma, The Body & Transformation : A Narrative Inquiry
Edited by Kim Etherington
£

"Childhood trauma creates chaos in many people's lives and chaos can leave us speechless, voiceless and silenced... Without a voice our body finds other ways to speak for us; our spirit survives and transcends our physical body. This book is full of stories about survival and transformation."
The style is a bit academic.

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Victims No Longer : A Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse
by Mike Lew
£

"The first time an incest survivor hears someone else say, 'that happened to me, too'....his life changes. Listening to someone else tell of experiences and feelings that mirror his own contradicts a lifetime of being certain that no-one will ever be able to understand." A comprehensive handbook for recovery. Recommended.

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Waking The Tiger : Healing Trauma
by Peter A. Levine
£

"Trauma is a fact of life. It does not however, have to be a life sentence... We must understand how the body is affected by trauma, and its central position in healing its aftermath... This book is about the gift of wisdom we receive as a result of learning to harness and transform the body's awesome, primordial, and intelligent energies... In overcoming the destructive force of trauma, our innate potential lifts us to new heights..."

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Wounded Boys Heroic Men : A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse
by Daniel Jay Sonkin, PhD
£

"If you were physically, sexually or psychologically abused as a boy, this book is for you... This book will not label you as defective, screwed up, or somehow less of a man. On the contrary, I believe that it takes a hero to admit to being hurt or having problems and to take the risk of asking for help and changing unhealthy patterns of behaviour."

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